Jealousy between siblings is a very serious problem. If this problem is not identified early and dealt with effectively by the parents then it can lead to larger problems. It can even go with the siblings into adulthood and can put excessive strain on the family for years to come. However, there are some important things that parents can do to look for signs and try to solve the issue before it balloons into a bigger one.
Identifying Sibling Jealousy
Identifying jealousy between siblings at a very young age is very important. Many times, parents notice signs that jealousy is occurring but do nothing about it. Some parents mistakenly believe that the issue will take care of itself. Unfortunately, without parental involvement this issue can be taken into adulthood. Watch for some of the root causes of jealousy.
For example, showing favoritism to one child over another can lead to problems with jealousy. In addition, providing gifts or rewards that are different (such as expensive vs cheap gifts) between siblings can also lead to problems with jealousy. Children can be very keen and can pick up on this even if parents think they are being fair. Once parents identify the cause of the jealousy, they can begin to work on correcting the problem and repairing the relationship. However, involving the whole family is necessary for it to be fully effective.
How to Know if a Child is Jealous of His Brother or Sister
The signs of jealousy can be vague but a parent who is observant can pick up on these quite easily. Children who are jealous often become angry and act out. They may also become withdrawn and depressed. They may also cry or fight over a toy or item that may be at the center of the jealousy.
If a parent sees any of these signs, she should immediately step in a try to speak with the child about his feelings or actions. Encourage the two siblings to play together and work on resolving the jealous issue. This is very important for the children to learn how to resolve their own conflicts so that they can find resolution in the future disagreements.
Intense Jealousy and Rivalry Between Siblings Can Have Devastating Effects
According to Forever Families with Brigham Young University, the effects of sibling jealousy can spill over into the relationship of siblings and parents, and even extended family members. This may not seem possible when children are very young but as time goes by this jealousy can affect sibling and family relationships.
As jealousy progresses and hard feeling develop, some family members may begin to take sides. This can include the parents, other siblings, grandparents and even uncles and cousins. The effects on the family can be long lasting and can devastate relationships permanently. Keeping the jealousy from developing into this stage is essential for the health of the family unit.
Kristie Jernigan - Kristie Janeway Jernigan has worked in the health care arena for over 20 years. She has a Masters degree in Health Administration and is ...
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